The observable pattern of continuing to defend, explain, or evaluate your behavior through what you meant after receiving evidence that other people experienced it differently.
BEHAVIORAL DISTINCTION
Intent Impact Gap: What I meant ≠ what you experienced.
Intentertia: I keep using what I meant to resist updating my behavior after learning what you experienced.
Candidate term. Proposed as a Human As Hell original; not trademark-cleared or legally verified, and not claimed as exclusive.